How To Create Lasting Change: 3 Tips That Work!
If you’ve ever wondered how to create lasting change, the kind that really sticks around and transforms your life – you’re not alone!
In fact, anybody who has ever set a goal will know what it’s like to emerge months later, and wonder “what happened!?” There’s no shame in it – we’ve all done it! 😳
Multiple failed attempts at change can be disheartening. But over the years and through our transition to a healthy lifestyle, we can say that we’ve certainly learned a thing or two about what it takes to create lasting change. And with the right mindset and strategies, it’s absolutely possible for you too.
So today we’re diving into the detail with our 3 BEST tips on how to create lasting change. Read on, take action, and let us know how you go!
#1 – Get Clear on Your “Why” AND Make Sure You Like It!
Take a moment to get quiet. Shut down Twitter. Turn off Facebook. Ask yourself – “why do I want this change?”
Often when we want to change something, we’re so caught up in the “doing” that we don’t take a moment to really get still and look internally. In doing so, we miss the most important step!
If you want to make a change but your “why” simply isn’t compelling enough, you’re going to be up against it. In fact, we can almost guarantee that this change isn’t going to stick for you. So it’s super important to do this internal work!
It may take a few separate moments of solitude to really dig down and uncover your “why”. So if the answer doesn’t show up right away, don’t panic. If the answers aren’t coming, a tool that we highly recommend for this is journalling. Writing out your thoughts is a simple (and surprisingly effective) way to “download” your thoughts and get some clarity.
A tip I want to share is this: when you think about your “why”, make sure you’re really getting to the bottom of it. It’s easy to think that you know the answer, when really you’ve only scratched the surface.
For example, let’s say you have some weight to lose and the change you want is to start eating healthy. You may think that obviously, your “why” is to lose weight. Hang on a second! Really investigate what lies underneath. What does losing weight actually mean to you? Does it mean respecting your body and setting an example for your family? Feeling fabulous in skinny jeans? Or does it mean your partner will finally stop nagging you?
Once you’ve found your “why”, ask yourself – “do I even like it?”
This step is equally, if not more important. When you ask yourself this question, keep in mind there is no right or wrong answer. It all comes down to YOU, and you’re totally in control.
So, if you love the thought of changing your diet to please your partner and look great in jeans – all the power to you! But if your “why” feels more like external pressure, or what somebody else expects from you – maybe this isn’t a change you really want to make.
Once you know your “why” and you really like it, you’re already well on your way! But if you’re not sure, or feel like you need help getting clear on your values and goals, be sure to download and fill out our free 100 Day Challenge Workbook!
#2 – Welcome (and rise above) the Ups and Downs
If you’re making a big change in your life, let me fill you in on some news. You are going to go through it!
You probably aren’t going to see it in a magazine, Instagram feed or Facebook post, but let me make it clear. Change is messy. There are heaps of ups and downs along the way. And sometimes, there are even ugly tears!
I believe that change is hard because what we’re essentially doing is moving from an old, familiar way of being to a new and “foreign” way of being. As much as we want to change or kick a habit that causes us suffering, the old way has a comfortable, predictable appeal. Even though we truly want the new way of being, we’re going to have to break out of old patterns. This takes time, and the period in between can be quite uncomfortable!
Anticipating the ups and downs of change, and accepting that it is not a linear process is the trick to rising above all the drama.
Know that there are going to be moments that feel great, and others where you feel yourself slide backwards. Just as there are going to be blissful, triumphant moments, there are also going to be moments of discouragement, skipped work-outs and take-away meals. It’s two steps forward, one step back. Just know that this is totally normal, and it’s a process that everybody who achieves great change has to go through.
So, instead of taking the “down days” or resistance as a sign to quit, think of it as a sign you’re headed in the right direction 😉
Stay patient, remember your “why” and just keep going, one small step at a time!
Related: Design Your Life – 100 Day Challenge
#3 – Get Support
We may seem pretty fancy these days, but as humans we are tribal creatures! This means that at a biological (and even spiritual) level, we simply aren’t meant to go it alone.
I want you to know that there’s absolutely nothing weak about reaching out for help. In fact, we thrive with the support of our friends, family and community. Enlisting those around you as support will not only help you achieve lasting change, it will also boost your emotional wellbeing.
Simple ways of incorporating support include (but are not limited to!) finding an exercise partner, texting a friend to stay accountable, or just having a heart-to-heart with your partner when the going gets tough!
Don’t feel supported? We hear from a lot of our lovely readers (and viewers) that they don’t have much support at home. Or that their friends aren’t on board with their new healthy lifestyle. While this shouldn’t stop you, having a like-minded support crew really is priceless.
So if this is you, I highly encourage you to come join our Facebook Group. It’s a private community of like-minded, positive women who support each other to be their best. We’d love to see you there!
What change are you working towards? We’d love to know!